Thought process on designing a Fat Pride Flag

So, the only existing fat pride flag I’m aware of is this one: 

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Unfortunately, it is a Fat Fetish Flag. Full explanation can be found here: 
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I’m not judging people who have Fat Fetishes, but I think it’s unacceptable that in 2018, the only Fat Pride Flag that exists represents people who fetishize us, and not US. 

So, I’ve decided to design my own. 

I thought the idea of the Neopolitan Ice Cream colors was cute, actually. But I don’t think the flag should be food-related. While reclaiming stereotypes can be really powerful, the notion that fat people eat poorly or only eat junk food is just that – a stereotype. Also, it can be really triggering for survivors/current sufferers of eating disorders, which absolutely affect the fat community at saddening rates. In fact, many fat people are in recovery from eating disorders, having disrupted their body’s natural metabolism over years of trauma. *waves hello*

I thought about having the outline of a fat body on a rainbow flag – but there are straight fat people too, and they deserve to feel Fat Pride as well. Being a queer person myself, of course gayness matters to me…I just think this is an important area to be inclusive. The final design of the flag should be able to be easily combined with other flags to express the diversity of our community, should people choose to include other aspects of their identity, like their sexuality, race, or gender identity.

I’ve thought up a couple images and made some quick n’ dirty sketches under the readmore

– A cornucopia. While I wanted to steer away from food, I feel like this is vague enough not to be triggering? Something like this maybe? 

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I feel like a cornucopia represents ampleness, generosity, plenty – all positive associations with “bigness.” On the other hand, cornucopias automatically conjure up Thanksgiving, a time inextricably tied to food, and overeating, which could be triggering…and again, there is technically food in that picture. I could do an EMPTY cornucopia, but that sends the image of famine and lack, so….maybe not. (Also cornucopias are really varied in the way they’re drawn, usually intricate, and would be difficult to recreate consistently). 

– A whale. I KNOW, I KNOW, but part of pride can be found in reclaiming words and imagery that have been used against us as slurs and making them a point of pride, rendering them useless as a slur, the way the word “queer” was reclaimed, or other slurs being reclaimed by members of specific communities. I’m thinking maybe a sea blue stripe – to represent the ocean in its vastness, diversity, and life-giving properties. (Again, positive associations with bigness) and the outline of a whale as a radical reclaiming of an insult that was hurled against us. Whales are also deeply family-bonded, nurturing, graceful animals that are unjustly hunted and persecuted, and who are SUPPOSED to be big. It’d also be very easy to overlay on a different pride flag color scheme, to incorporate other identities.  Maybe something like this? 

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Stripe color is #5899b8, ocean colored. I made it extra wide, because…wide people. 😀 Whale color is #a1e1ff. I didn’t spend too long perfecting it, it’s just an idea sketch right now. Here’s what it might look like overlayed on another pride flag: 

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Other potential fat avatars could include pig, elephants, rhinos, etc. All things that have been hurled at me as insults before….though while reclaiming slurs can be really powerful, fat people have been associated with animals by fatphobes WAAYYYY too much – codifiying that into a pride flag could either be seen as a powerful subversion of that shaming tactic – or seen as capitulating to that shaming tactic. 

Anyway, let’s keep working on other ideas. 

What other things are big? I thought – outer space. Stars. “Celestial Bodies.” All bodies are made of star stuff…Our own sun is a star – and it’s massive and gives life to the whole planet. Fat people are “Stars” too! And we deserve to shine. So I cooked up a few star/sun based ideas. 

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I chose purple this time, being the color of royalty, and because we’ve been euphemistically referred to as “Queen Size,” or “King Size.” Why not lean into our royal birthright? It’s just a simple star on a wide purple band, but it emphasizes pride and that we are all “celestial bodies” made of starstuff. Here’s what it might look like over another pride flag: 

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I didn’t bother cleaning up the background, I’d need to find a star with a transparent backgroung to overlay, but – you get the idea. Although…you could also do overlays like this: 

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That leaves even more of the original flag clear, and gives increased legibility. It could also be added to the top left, or expanded as a triangle on the left side. Here’s both options. 

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lol graphic design is my passion XD (again just a sketch)

I was thinking about the sun, but then I also realized – the moon deserves some love, too. Especially as a gravitational body, and its effect on the tides…So I thought – how can I include them both? 

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A solar eclipse! But I also know flame burns at different colors depending on its heat, like you see when you light a match or a candle: 

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I also like sending the message that fat people are HOT! Which isn’t a message we get to hear about ourselves very often. ^_^; So pulling design elements from both these images, I came up with this: 

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….Hrm. Including the flame colors was a fun idea, but I kinda hate how it came out. Also, a center circle is currently used on the intersex flag, I wouldn’t want people to be confused. And this looks like it would be really hard to use as an overlay. Too busy. Lemme try simplifying a little. 

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Hm. Not AS ugly but…still pretty ugly. -_-; yeahno.

I searched for a public domain sun/moon images and was inspired by old drawings like these: 

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Obviously, this is just a sketch I winged together, any final image would have far superior art. But…take a look: 

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I…..don’t hate this?? I like that it includes two obviously round faces…I like how Renaissance-y it looks, alluding to a time period where fat bodies were appreciated and lauded in art. And it still has that “celestial body” connotation. I also HELLA simplified the color scheme to a midnight blue (moon) and golden (sun). I made some of the rays straight, and some of the rays curvy, because not everybody is straight. I also feel like this would be easy to transpose onto another pride flag like so: 

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The design is a little busy, but it could either be made more intricate (a la the source inspiration) or LESS intricate, deliberately “dumbed down” into something easy to understand and replicate. 

Anyway, these are some preliminary thoughts. Fat people, please “weigh in” (hurrrr puns) and let me know what you think!

I’m tagging some friends and some fat positive blogs I follow – would be interested in your feedback! I’m just one person, and having other voices for concrit would be super helpful. 

@fatgirlsdoingthings@fatphobiabusters, @fuckyeahfatpositive, @thebodyisnotanapology @stophatingyourbody@frostyemma, @charmingfury, @semi-sem, @sillyengineer

Pride flags

I love the explosion in pride flags. I love it. 

Yes, the original Rainbow Pride Flag is here for us all, but I think it’s wonderful that people are putting such specific, creative wordsmithing into naming their experience, and that they’re also celebrating our diversity and insisting on wonderful, colorful plurality. It’s inspiring, honestly. It also confuses me when people are like “you just wanna feels special,” or “you’re just making stuff up, now.” Buddy – I’ve got bad news for you about…words. And language. And pretty much 95% of human culture. Things mean what we decide they mean! And to me, it’s so refreshing to see queer people making so many bold, bright, beautiful declarations of who they are. There is a reason the rainbow was the choice for our community – each color represents a different aspect of begin gay, but it also emphasizes that there’s so many ways to be gay, and that we must always embrace and celebrate our uniqueness. 

So, I decided to make a post with all the pride flags I’ve found that could apply to me! Some of them are more accurate than others, but these are all flags I’ve identified with at some point. 

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Can’t beat a classic!

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Oh wait, you totes can. I love how this emphasizes our community’s diversity and challenges us to maintain our commitment to intersectionality and listening to the people of color in our ranks. 

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I identified as bisexual in college, when I was first figuring things out! I still feel fine being called bi…I just think there’s other terms that are more specific for me!

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For a while I identified as polysexual, but I never really felt like it was a perfect fit, and also it seemed easily confused with polyamorous (which I also am). Finally I settled on…

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IT ME! 😀

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OOOoooo so pretty and sparkly! 😀

From here on in, I’ll put them under a Readmore so that your dash isn’t dominated by an epic long post! 

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I just found about this flag/orientation today! Omnisexual! I’m excited about it! Look how gorgeous the flag is! I’m still not clear on the difference between Pansexual and Omnisexual, I’ve seen it articulated different ways by different people…I think I’d be fine with both, tbh! Until I understand the precise distinction it’s hard for me to say which I feel closer to…but I think I’ll stick with “pan” for now, since it feels more accurate for me than bi or poly, and most people understand it. 

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Aces are beautiful and belong in our community! Aces are so great!

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I’m a gray ace, or graysexual…this is the pride flag for that 😀 

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This is the original intersex flag…

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And this is the new one. I LOVE IT! I never cared for the way the old flag insisted on a gender binary with its pink and blue, though the white was supposed to represent nonbinary intersex people…also it was frequently mistaken for the trans flag, and while I am intersex, I’m definitely not trans, as I was AFAB and identify as a woman. (I didn’t even find out I had an intersex condition until I was 18!) I like how unique this new design is! 

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Polyamory pride! 😀 

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Did you know that lesbians who prefer to kiss and cuddle than have sex used to be called “Bambi Lesbians?” How adorable! And how useful for the ace sapphics today! This was designed by @alouette-lulu, along with a lot of other deer pride flags! She didn’t originally intend them to be “Bambi” pride flags, but I think it works perfectly!

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Here’s another design for Bambi lesbians! 

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…but I’m not technically a lesbian, so here’s a Perfect Bambi Pan flag! XD I ADORE these, thanks so much for sharing your art, @alouette-lulu!

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The sapphic pride flag! AAAAH It’s so pretty!! Sometimes the violets are drawn, instead of being shopped in like this. Did you know that in the language of flowers, Violets were used even centuries ago to express Sapphic romance? Dreamy! ❤

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The queer flag! Well….one of them. XD I love the word queer, I love how defiant it is, I love its history, I love its refusal to be simply defined, and most of all I love how nobody can agree what the queer flag is, it’s perfect!! I hope there’s always twenty different queer flags because that’s just so QUEER AND PERFECT!!

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Another queer flag design!

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Oooo Geometry, YAAAAS

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TRUTH

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The BDSM Pride Flag! I’m not as active in the community as I used to be, but it was honestly lifesaving when I was going through a difficult time, and I learned SO MUCH about who I am as a person through my time in my local kink community.

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The Leather pride flag! I’ve often seen this used interchangeably with the BDSM pride flag, but Leather is actually a very specific subculture of the BDSM community with houses and discipline and apprenticeship protocols. I identify more with the first one, but see this one used more often…it still makes me happy when I see it, like I found a kindred spirit! 

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The Sapiosexual flag! For a brief while I identified as sapio, but I eventually realized that while intelligence is a key component in my sexual attraction, it wasn’t the most important – that’s kindness, and a sense of humor. I realized this flag actually wasn’t right for me, but it helped me on my journey! 

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I actually just discovered this flag in my googling for this post! I am a fat woman, and I’m learning every day how to be proud of that in a fatphobic culture. And this design is based on Neopolitan ice-cream! How cute! At first, I was really excited about it! Unfortunately, this flag is also associated with feederism, stuffing, padding, and other fat fetish, which I find disappointing. Not because I’m judging people’s kinks, but I do not participate in them – I don’t like being fetishized for my body – that doesnt make me feel “proud.” The “vanilla” stripe is supposed to represent “all BBW and BHM and the people that love them” – but I don’t like the implication that I’m “vanilla” just because I don’t participate in fat fetishism. (I’m decidedly not vanilla.) This is a very new flag, having only been designed in 2011, and I’m sad that I couldn’t find a better example for fat queer people. 

So why end on that down note? 

Because I’ve decided to design my own Fat Pride flag!! 😀 Defining our communities for ourselves is a quintessential part of the gay experience. I realized – why am I waiting around for someone else to do it? Be the change you want to see in the world! I’m going to try and do it justice! ❤

Thanks for reading my long post, and if you liked and reblogged, have a hug from me. I love my community, and I’m so happy Pride Month is here! 

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iwilleatyourenglish:

millettown:

not that my input really matters, but i don’t know much of lgbt history other than bits and pieces of stonewall, a little bit of the aids crisis, and the legalization of gay marriage; i’m an actual child and nobody here (kentucky) educates anyone/gets educated on it

how about instead of shaming people—especially young people—for not knowing our history, we provide them with credible resources?

here’s a long list of LGBT+ historical events worth googling and learning about. i’m not sure if all the dates and details are spot on, but, again, this is really just a guide for what to research on your own. to warn you, a lot of this history is ugly, including things like the conflation of pedophilia and LGBT+ people, genital mutilation, homophobia, transphobia, nazis, and wide scale persecution.

Free Resources:

an interactive timeline of LGBT+ world history

The 1950s and the Roots of LGBT Politics (American-centric)

Before Stonewall: The Making of a Gay and Lesbian Community (warning: this documentary was made in the 80s and is dated in a lot of respects as a result; it also features quotes from Allen Ginsberg, who we now know was a pedophile, but it’s still very informative in terms of history)

a brief history of the bisexual movement from the 1960s-early 2000s (American-centric)

Bisexual.org has a TON of resources on bi (and often pan) history, historical figures, research, and media

“Here’s A History Of Bisexuality, From Ancient Egypt To Stonewall”

a brief timeline of trans history, beginning in the 1890s (European and American-centric)

“Gender Variance Around the World Over Time”

Some Purchasable Resources:

(most of these can be bought used online for pretty cheap and some can be found in libraries)

Before Stonewall: Activists for Gay and Lesbian Rights in Historical Context by Vern L Bullough (it’s a bit dated, but still informative)

A Little Gay History: Desire and Diversity Across the World by R. Parkinson

Sapphistries: A Global History of Love between Women (Intersections) by Leila J. Rupp

Gay Voices of the Harlem Renaissance (Blacks in the Diaspora) by A.B. Christa Schwarz

The Lavender Scare: The Cold War Persecution of Gays and Lesbians in the Federal Government by David K. Johnson

Queer Brown Voices: Personal Narratives of Latina/o LGBT Activism edited by Uriel Quesada, Letitia Gomez, and Salvador Vidal Ortiz

Transgender History: The Roots of Today’s Revolution by Susan Stryker

Asegi Stories: Cherokee Queer and Two-Spirit Memory by Qwo-Li Driskill

slightly invasive gay asks

I decided to do all of them 😀 If you’re in the alphabet soup and you wanna play along, consider yourself tagged.

1. what’s your gender?
I’m a cis woman, even though I’m also intersex. (I was raised female and identify that way.)

2. what are your pronouns?
She/her. I’m fine with they/them, especially from online peeps.

3. is your family accepting?
Happy to say yes, they are. They could be better on some fronts, but that’s okay. They love me and they’re trying. That’s what matters.

4. what do you wish you could tell your past self?
Don’t marry him.

5. what is your sexuality?
I’m pan and gray ace. 

6. favorite color?
Blue

7. sun gay or moon gay?
Hmm…that’s a toughie. I’m probably Moon gay because I’m such an insomniac…but Sagittarius is a fire/sun sign…and I am excited about summer….hrm…maybe I’m a Twilight gay. The sun is juuuuust about to set, and in the other side of the sky, where it’s darker already, you can see the moon and a few stars. ❤

8. when did you find out your sexuality?
LOL buddy, when I figure it out I’ll let you know. There were signs even when I was a kid, but it took me forever to find a label I liked. I was basically questioning clear through college, and then settled on bi, and then pan, and then figured out I was ace, so…in five years who knows?! Basically, by senior year of high school I had serious suspicions that I was Not Straight™ and by sophmore year of college…yeah there no room for doubt anymore. X,D

9. how was your day?
OMG thank you for asking??? It was okay. I went to work….then heated up some leftovers and watched the West Wing. Nothing to write home about, but most of them are like that, when you’re an adult. “This is water,” and all. 

10. do you have any gay friends?
LOL yah we tend to congregate

11. what’s your favorite hobby?
I sing and act and write fanfic 😀

12. who’s the best gay icon in your opinion?
Janelle Monae. QUEEEEEEN. 

13. which pride flags do you like the most design/color wise?
The original rainbow flag has to be a fan favorite, right? And I like it with or without the pink, and I especially like the recent edit to include black/brown. As far as the aesthetic goes, I like the sapphic flag. It’s sooo pretty. The butch lesbian flag too! Also I think it’s weird and hilarious and perfectly fitting that no one can agree what the Queer flag is, there’s like, twenty different versions and that’s honestly just so queer and great. XD 

14. are you openly out?
Unfortunately, you can still get fucking FIRED in this day and age for being queer, which is cruel and ridiculous and makes me so furious. So I am not out at work. I am out to my friends and out to my family. (And to my partners, obviously, when I have them.) Truthfully, you’re never 100% out, no one walks around screaming their sexuality constantly so every passerby is AWARE, you can’t inform the entire planet at once…you continually come out throughout your life based on the situation in which you find yourself. I do resent that I can’t be out at work…but I think I would resent unemployment even more :/ Bitch gotta eat. 

15. are you comfortable with yourself?
LORD no LOL. But I’m comfortable with my queerness.

16. bottom or top?
Switch. But this question overly simplifies the power flow in a sexual relationship, I find? It’s fine to get a general idea, but the answer’s always more delicious and complex.

17. femme or butch?
I define my aesthetic as “Lazy femme.” It says “I like looking womanly, but do not have the money, time, or skillset to constantly tic all the boxes of Femininity.™" In other words, I don’t shave my legs and I wear jeans and clunky comfortable shoes, but I also wear dresses and dye my hair pink, and some days I go whole hog and do my make up. So…Futch? :/

18. do you bind?
Nope, only for a play once. And I did it with ace bandages like a moron. Stay safe kids.

19. do you shave?
Nah. I have very light/scanty hair anyway. If I didn’t, I’m not sure if I would or not.

20. if you could date anyone you wanted, who would it be?
Drew Barrymore and Chris Evans. Both. Happy lil’ triad. (Maybe hook up occasionally with Aidy Bryant or Chris Pratt, just for funsies.) Oh! no wait! Mark Ruffalo. I bet he’s terrific in the sack. And I love his brain and his politics. WAIT Janelle Monae? Tessa Thompson AND Gal Godot…….okay being pan is difficult. -_-;

21. do you have a partner (s)?
Alas, no. 😦 I had a girlfriend for a bit, but it didn’t work out.

22. describe your partner (s)?
Tender lesbian, black, musician…insecure, can be kind of passive aggressive. :/ I still think she’s a really cool person and we’re trying to do the friends thing.

23. have you ever dated anyone of the same sex?
Yup

24. anyone of another sex?
Yup

25. pastel gay or goth gay?
Goth

26. favorite dad in dream daddies?
I dunno, it seemed kinda fetishistic to me, but most dating sims do?…not passing judgment on folks who like it, it’s just not really my bag. I guess I like the design of the bear Dad.

27. tell me a random fact about yourself?
I am blowing on my nails right now so they dry. Indigo-for-it by Essie Treat Love Color, kind of a cornflower grayish blue. (See, I’ve got some femme rattling around in there).

28. do you own any pride flags/merch?
Yes! I bought them at Target last year. And I ordered some custom T-shirts for my parents and my best friend.

29. have you ever been to a pride parade?
NOOOOO AND I SO WANNA GO I think this year might be the year!

30. any advice to someone who isn’t out or who is exploring themselves?
It’s okay to be questioning, you don’t need to have it all figured out yet. It’s okay to be closeted, you aren’t lying to anybody and you aren’t a bad person, some things are private. When it’s time, you’ll know. Don’t let anybody rush you, either to pick a label or to come out. Also? If you wanna say you’re [label] then go for it, there’s no registration fee, if you feel like that you are like that. And you can always change your mind later. People who say differently are called “gatekeepers” and are to be avoided. The gay experience, like all of life, is messy and complex and way too weird and wonderful to be overly simplified. You are you. Just listen to your heart, listen to your body, and trust what it’s telling you.